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Singlemumdom

I've officially been a single parent now for over a year. As I've reflected back on this year I feel in a much better place, much stronger physically, mentally and emotionally.

I'm not one of those people who feel like they NEED to be in a relationship. Not any more at least! I have more than enough to fill my days with a child, a full time job, the house, a dog and my hobbies. But... those things don't give you affection, cuddles on the sofa and intimacy. It's been a VERY long time that I've been without those things and I really do miss those.

So what's a single mum like me to do? Not a lot to be honest, especially with the impact of covid and how far ahead you need to plan meals out or drinks with friends. I grab whatever childfree time I can get but I don't have a partner to share that time with; and I can't just quickly set up a date with someone, so life is pretty lonely in that respect. 

I have some amazing friends and I know I'm always welcome to spend time with them, but it's just not the same is it? I would love a partner in crime. Someone to tease, someone to snuggle up with, someone to share the good times and the bad with.

I'd be interested to hear from other single parents out there about what you miss the most, or what your biggest challenge is? How do you manage that?



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